Adventures of the Heart
Mary Zalmanek
Issue 24 - Men of Mystery

Quote of the Month
"Without mysteries, life would be very dull indeed."  - Charles de Lint
Men of Mystery
Lance Rucker is a dental school professor by day and a mystery novelist at night. His wife, Bianca Rucker, is a sex and marital therapist with a private practice in Vancouver, Canada. They have been happily married for twenty-eight years.

Several years ago Bianca received an e-mail from Winston O'Toole, a sailboat charter captain. He told Bianca he had met her at a public conference  they both attended and was enchanted by her European demeanor and fascinating occupation. Bianca didn't remember him, but she met many people at conferences.

The Captain went on to say he was sailing into Vancouver, arriving from his more recent charters in the South Pacific and up the Pacific Coast of North America. He wanted to take her out for dinner.  He made a compelling argument, but she was reluctant to meet this stranger outside a professional setting. She considered
asking Lance to join her, but remembered he'd told her a few days earlier that he
had a business trip scheduled at that time. 

She mentioned the e-mail at a family dinner that evening. Opinions as to whether
or not she should go were split. Eventually she decided to go, and take her mother with her. Lance was uncharacteristically quiet on the subject.

At home, Lance said, "This guy sounds like somebody you really should get to
know privately. Maybe you should go alone."

Bianca gave him a stern look. "I don't know anything about him," she objected.
Why would her husband want her to meet a stranger alone?

"He gave you his website," Lance suggested. "Why don't you check it out?"

Bianca typed in the URL. She was shocked at what she found. In a photo taken in front of a cruising ketch, dressed in clothes she had never seen before, was her husband. 

"It's you!" Bianca exclaimed.

"No, he's a good looking man, but that's not me," Lance said, smiling. "He looks like someone you should get to know on your own, though." 

Her husband had invested significant effort into this couples fantasy, so she
decided to see where it would lead. She agreed to meet "Winston" without a chaperon.

Several days later, Lance packed for his business trip. Bianca took him to the airport. When she was out of sight, he took a cab to a waterfront hotel. He changed into clothes befitting a sea captain and headed off to their dinner rendezvous location. Upon arriving at the restaurant, he gave specific instructions to the hostess.

When Bianca arrived, the hostess ledKelly's mud volleyball her to Lance's table.  He stood up and
formally introduced himself as Captain O'Toole. He had a distinct Boston accent. Never breaking character, he told Bianca stories of his life on the sea and listened to her stories about her family and friends. 

The hostess interrupted their getting-to-know-each-other chatter.  "Excuse me,
sir, but you look familiar," she said.  "Weren't you in here a few months ago?  As I recall, you're a charter captain."

"Yes," Lance replied.  "It's nice of you to remember me."

Bianca was floored that he'd attended to so many details to set up this fantasy. She began to wonder what was fantasy and what was reality. 

The hostess was impressed, too.  As they were leaving, she said, with tears in
her eyes, "Thank you for letting me be a part of your lives this evening. You two
are amazing."

This evening was the beginning of an ongoing six-year love affair between
Winston and Bianca.  Lance and Bianca are more in love than ever. 

If you'd like to hear more from Lance's vivid imagination, his three Brandon
Drake novels are available at, with a fourth due
for release this coming year. Dr. Bianca Rucker's website is

Speaking Schedule

The Groundbreaking
2008 Lotus Workshop and Conference
October 17th -19th
The Marriott Southwest, Minneapolis, Minnesota
Nine experts in relationships, sexuality, and sacred sexuality will be converging in the beautiful Land of Lakes region of Minneapolis for three days of revealing the tips,practices, and secrets of intimate relating from ancient cultures and modern science. Speakers include Deborah Sundahl, Mary Zalmanek, Chip August, Francesca Gentille, Ina Mlekush, Harold Taitt, Ann Maxwell, Deborah Adele, and Jennifer Prichett.
The journey begins with a beautiful ceremony, keynote speakers, overview of the weekend, and gentle mixers. Saturday is smorgasbord of 1 and 1/2 hour workshops, with an evening of dinner, mingling with the experts and exhibitors. Sunday is a day of intensive trainings and deepenings. 
For detailed information about this exciting conference, visit

Magazine Articles

I've been writing for Motorhome Magazine.  The November issue has a short article on Bishop Castle, a unique structure in southern Colorado built by a unique man.  The January issue will have a major travel feature on Albuquerque, New Mexico.

Until Next Time

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Wishing you a life of romantic adventure,

Mary Zalmanek

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